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Column 261

Betrayal

Intro by Ted Kooser
03.21.2010

All over this coun­try, mar­riage coun­selors and ther­a­pists are right now speak­ing to cou­ples about unspo­ken things. In this poem, Andrea Hol­lan­der Budy, an Arkansas poet, shows us one of those cou­ples, suf­fer­ing from things done and undone. 

Betrayal

They decide finally not to speak
of it, the one blemish in their otherwise
blameless marriage. It happened
 
as these things do, before the permanence
was set, before the children grew
complicated, before the quench
 
of loving one another became all
each of them wanted from this life.
Years later the bite
 
of not knowing (and not wanting
to know) still pierces the doer
as much as the one to whom it was done:
 
the threadbare lying, the insufferable longing,
the inimitable lack of touching, the undoing
undone.

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We do not accept unsolicited submissions. American Life in Poetry is made possible by The Poetry Foundation (www.poetryfoundation.org), publisher of Poetry magazine. It is also supported by the Department of English at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln. Poem copyright ©2009 by Andrea Hollander Budy, whose most recent book of poems is Woman in the Painting, Autumn House, 2006. Poem reprinted from Shenandoah, Vol. 59, no. 1, by permission of Andrea Hollander Budy and the publisher. Introduction copyright © 2024 by The Poetry Foundation.