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Column 443

A Grandfather

Intro by Ted Kooser
09.15.2013

There are thou­sands of poems about car­ing for the old, but I have nev­er before seen one like this, in which a care­giv­er wades with an elder­ly per­son out into deep water, lit­er­al­ly and fig­u­ra­tive­ly. It’s by Marie Thurmer, a poet now liv­ing in Nebraska.

A Grandfather

We waded in the shallows,
holding his hands, then just
fingertips, as his feet
slowly lifted off the bottom.
The land did not stop
at the waterline, but simply
became unreachable.
His worn face bobbed above
the waves, breath in an O
as our words, fistfuls
of shimmering minnows,
scattered, lost on their way
to him. The tide carried
him out, then back a bit,
a gradual letting go into dark
waters, and we, still
in the ebb, could almost
mistake that O
for the response we wanted—
on the ins, I’ll remember you,
on the outs, goodbye.

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We do not accept unsolicited submissions. American Life in Poetry is made possible by The Poetry Foundation (www.poetryfoundation.org), publisher of Poetry magazine. It is also supported by the Department of English at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln. Poem copyright ©2012 by Marie Thurmer, and reprinted by permission of the poet. Introduction copyright © 2024 by The Poetry Foundation.